Black and white family portrait of four people chatting during fall session in Oakbrook, IL

Why Family Photos Matter Even More as Your Kids Get Older


When your kids are little, getting them in front of a camera is mostly about snacks and good timing. When they’re older, it becomes a different conversation. There’s the eye roll, the “do we really have to?”, the back-and-forth about what to wear. Many of the parents who reach out to me as an Oak Brook family photographer mention it before anything else: I’m not sure my kids are going to be into this.

I understand that worry completely. I also think it’s one of the best reasons to book a session.


A Fall Session in Oak Brook That Started With a Little Worry

This fall, I photographed a family in Oak Brook with older sons. Before we started, the mom was a little stressed. She wasn’t sure how the boys would feel about family photos, and she was quietly bracing for it to be a chore.

It didn’t take long to see that she had nothing to worry about, and that she was a big part of the reason why. She has a glowing, joyful way about her that puts people at ease without any effort. She’d say something funny, and the whole family would break into laughter. It wasn’t the polite kind. It was the real kind, which no one can direct.

From there, the session relaxed into something playful and easy. Nobody was performing. They were just being themselves together, and I got to follow along.


The Photos I Keep Coming Back To

Some of my favorite images from that afternoon aren’t the traditional family portraits at all. They’re the small moments between the mom and her husband: the two of them making each other laugh, a look passing between them, a few seconds where they completely forgot I was there.

I love those frames. Once kids arrive, parents are rarely photographed as a couple, and almost never in a way that shows how they actually are with each other. Those spontaneous moments tell the story of the relationship the whole family grew out of.


Why Family Photos Matter More as Kids Grow Older

When children are small, the changes are obvious and we document them constantly. As kids get older, the changes are quieter but just as big. Their personalities sharpen. Inside jokes form. The way they lean on you, tease you, or stand next to you shifts year by year.

These years also move fast. Schedules fill up, independence grows, and the stretch when everyone is under one roof is shorter than it feels in the middle of it. Family photos with teenagers record something specific: who you all are to each other right now, before the next chapter rearranges things again.


What If My Teenagers Don’t Want Family Photos?

This is the most common question I hear, so here’s what I tell parents:

  • There’s no stiff posing. My approach to natural family photography is relaxed and guided, not staged. I’ll give gentle direction, then step back and let things happen.
  • No one has to fake a smile. I’m not asking anyone to say cheese. Real expressions come from real interaction, and older kids are wonderful at that once the pressure is off.
  • They can be themselves. If your son is dry and sarcastic, that’s welcome. Personality is the point.
  • Your energy matters most. As that Oak Brook mom showed me, when parents relax, kids follow. You don’t need to manage everyone. You just need to show up and enjoy each other.

More often than not, the kid who was least excited beforehand ends up in some of my favorite frames.


Let’s Photograph Your Family as It Is Now

If your kids are growing up faster than you’re ready for, I’d love to spend an unhurried session with your family. I photograph families in Oak Brook, Hinsdale, Arlington Heights, Chicago, and the North Shore. Fall family photography in Oak Brook is one of my favorite times of year to work, but these moments are worth photographing in any season.


Reach out through my contact page and tell me a little about your family, including the ones who might need some convincing.


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